I am a young mother of two, and my finance and i are thinking about having another child. I was wondering what differences and the biggest changes your third child brought you. we are not poor but we aren't rich either, ma make about 34,000 a year between us as i stay at home. i plan on going to college this year and when the boys are in school pursuing my career. The only thing i am really concerned about is money. Tips? Experience? i am doing my school through my local college online, wont be a problem. im on a three year term to make the course load lighter. im not looking for school advice
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We have three with two on the way and my husband makes only a bit more then yours. I would say however, if you are going to be pursuing a career at the same then I wouldn't suggest it. The reason I say this is pregnancy is EXHAUSTING enough, and you put two kids on top of that and your walking dead. Then when baby comes, you'll surely have your hands full. Personally, financially you'd be fine so long as the cost of living isn't outrageous. I look at it this way- children aren't as expensive as people make them out to be... it's LIFESTYLES that are expensive.
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dont have another kid until you get you schooling done.
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I am a mother of three grown children. The third child brought on more expense, but more than that joy! If you are wanting to go to school, i would not be thinking of having another child at this time. I was a stay at home mom because I cried at the word daycare :( I babysat and took in ironing for a little extra cash. We didn't make a lot of money at that time. You can make it on the money your husband brings in. God will provide your needs. I wish you luck whatever you decide. 3 children are no harder than 2. It gave my girl another little girl to play with. Good luck and God bless.
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Money wise it wasn't too difficult until they hit the school years. One more addition didn't make much difference as far as the grocery bill and other things. Hand me downs (clothes and toys) came in handy, the third child was much easier to take care of due to more experience and the other siblings helping out and entertaining. The money crunch began during the school years....because this is when the child technically becomes "one". Their own school clothes, own books, own supplies...but buying in BULK helped that a lot too. Actually buying in bulk cost about the same as having 2 children. Day care will obviously cost more..I was a stay at home mom until my youngest entered school. My youngest was and is the biggest joy of my motherhood. If your going to have another child do it now.....it's a lot easier when your younger...look at it as these are the mothering years. You won't regret it. I returned to school for my nursing degree when my youngest went to school. Since you are already taking online classes your one step ahead of the game. Good Luck Dear!
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If you are not so good financially now you definitely won't be, but if you are like me then 1 more really won't make to much of a difference. I had 3 who were in school and had a forth after 5 yrs, so it really doesn't matter! Go for it and GL!
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My husband and i were doing great when we had only the 2 kids. Then we decide on a 3 because he wanted a son. Now the problem is we did not anticipate how expensive it would be now to raise another child, and the time and energy that goes into raising three children. Now it is so hard. My husband work in a hospital making 79 thousand per year i am in nursing school full time and work part time from home making 27 thousand and it is hard. Kids are alot of work i love my kids to pieces but with everything going sky high a gallon of milk is now $4 and a pack of diaper is $20. Our family income is more than yours and we are finding it difficult with three kids to keep up our life style and give the kids what they need. Good luck to you
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I'm the mother of three older children and our family income is the same as yours. If you are good at budgeting, using coupons, shopping at thrift stores and yard sales, you will have everything you need and do well. My third child had colic, so I really had a rough first couple of months. Then there was a time I had three children at three different schools and I did alot of running. You will do fine. Also, if you live near a library, there are lots of free childrens programs to take your children to.
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Having another child will just not change things very much. As long as the finances are there - go for it.
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We have 5. The biggest change was between 3 and 4 Then the 5th was no biggy. Most people say it's the 3rd thats a bigger adjustment. As far as money, we are only making it with God as the head of our home. He provides us all the money we need.
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We have three children as well and live quite comfortable on 36,000 a year. The biggest things that help us out are budgeting and just plain being thrifty. (I love the Tightwad Gazette by Amy Dacycyzn) The biggest thing I experienced going from two to three children was exhaustion, especially since the youngest are only 2 years apart. Other than that I wouldn't trade it for the world, except maybe to have another. lol.
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Well, I had my daughter and was on my own at nineteen. I vowed I would not be one of those young girls that continues to have babies w/o care of having a stable family. When my daughter was five I met a great guy and we were married a year later. We had a son right away, and we wanted more, but I wanted to enjoy the new baby. My daughter was in school full time and I worked part time (my hubby only made $10/hr full time and then did part time pizza delivery. We lived in a two bedroom. Anyway we went to our best friend's wedding and had a REALLY good time. We had our second son nine months later. We have struggled, but it was a little easier with great family and friends, not to mention my second son gets all my first sons clothes (it saves a lot). It also helps that my daughter was born in Sept, my 2nd Feb., and 3rd July, which means plenty of time to save for parties and presents. Honestly it couldn't have worked out better. It's been a tough road, but worth it. I know it is important to have money to provide the basics, but you don't need to spoil them. I think it teaches them there is much more important things. My daughter is in 6th grade and my sons are still at home with me. Although we couldn't afford preschool for either of them, they are very smart and I know they will do well when they go to regular school (my son will start this year). For their social skills, I worked at a health club with free daycare for 4 hrs 2 days a week, and also had church and church outings. All my kids are a blessing and they do well in all aspects. God has blessed us more than we could've asked. Good luck in your desicion making, really sit down and talk long and hard with your hubby. I hope I helped a little.
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